When I picked Dylan up from Ms. Rowe’s he ran toward me holding a drawing of a rocket ship heading past the moon with stars scattered around it like confetti.

“For you, Mom,” he said.

I held him for long enough that he started to squirm.

That weekend we planted flowers in the backyard, something we had been planning for months. Dylan chose the colors himself: red, yellow, purple, the palette of someone who wanted the world to look louder. While we dug in the dirt he asked, quietly, whether they were mad at us.

“They’re mad at themselves,” I said. “But they’ll blame me because it’s easier than changing.”

He nodded, satisfied with the logic, and went back to planting.

That trust, that complete and unguarded trust, was worth more than any apology my parents could have manufactured.

Denise came over for coffee on an evening a few weeks after everything had settled and said, with the bluntness that made her the most useful person I knew: you’re free now. They can’t touch you anymore.

She was right. But freedom had a texture I had not expected, a strangeness that came from having organized so much of my internal life around the fight. I had to figure out who I was when the fight was over.