One morning while preparing tea in the kitchen Brianna finally spoke the words that shattered whatever strength remained inside my heart. “Mom I do not know how else to say this but your presence disgusts me because everything about old people makes me uncomfortable.”

I turned slowly and looked at her face while my voice remained surprisingly calm. “Brianna do you truly find me disgusting,” I asked gently while searching her eyes for any sign of hesitation.

She paused for a moment but eventually nodded without apology. The silence that followed felt heavier than any argument we could have had.

That night I sat alone on the edge of the bed where my husband and I once talked for hours about the future of our daughter. Before he died he held my hand and whispered softly, “Promise me you will always take care of Brianna.”

For many years I honored that promise with every decision I made. However that evening I realized I had never once taken care of myself.