When I chose a practical degree and a stable job, it was framed as luck. “Anna’s just good at those things,” my mother would say, as if effort didn’t count if it wasn’t artistic. I married Chris— steady, kind, someone who saw me clearly and loved me anyway. We built a life that worked. We had Lucy. Our world got smaller in the best way: bedtime stories, Saturday pancakes, little routines that held everything together.

Amanda married Jason and had Logan and Ella. She drifted between jobs, always on the verge of finding her calling. Recently she’d decided to retrain as a teacher— art, of course, something with children, something she liked to describe with big noble words. My parents treated it like a heroic journey. “She’s so good with kids,” my mother would say, ignoring the fact that being entertaining at family gatherings and being responsible are not the same thing.

My parents retired— or tried to. They didn’t have the savings they’d planned, and their pride made them allergic to admitting it. They talked about how time was precious, how they deserved to enjoy their later years, how they’d sacrificed so much.

So I helped.