After I paid $77,000 for my brother’s wedding, he sent me to the wrong city in Italy “as a joke.” I landed in Naples while they were celebrating in Florence. The next morning, he texted: “LOL, I just didn’t want you there.” My mother added, “This is your fault.” I didn’t argue. I smiled… and sent her a gift—four feet tall, delivered by courier. She called me in tears: “Can I please pay you back?”

The camera angle was bad, probably a phone half-hidden in a makeup bag or propped against a curling iron case. The room looked soft and expensive in that wedding-suite way—cream curtains, gilt mirror, bottles and brushes spread across a white table, a garment bag hanging open in the background with lace peeking through. My mother stood near the vanity in her pale blue dress, pearls at her throat, lipstick perfect.

Camille was seated in front of the mirror in a silk robe, one earring on, one hand flat against the table.

My mother leaned in and said, in the tender voice she used when she wanted her cruelty mistaken for wisdom, “Let this be a lesson, sweetheart. Women like Alyssa confuse usefulness with belonging.”

I felt my face go hot all over.

Camille in the video didn’t answer.

My mother continued, dabbing at an invisible speck on the robe sleeve like she was fixing lint on a doll. “You can’t invite that kind of need into a marriage. They always want a seat that was never theirs.”

Then the video cut.

I sat there in the blue-white light of my screen with my hands lying useless in my lap.