But I had decided, in the hours I had spent unable to sleep, that I needed to face them one more time. Not for their sake. For mine. I needed to close something that I had left open for too long, and I needed Dylan to understand that managing difficult people was not the same as running from them.

I arranged for Dylan to stay with our neighbor Ms. Rowe, who adored him and treated him like a grandchild, and drove to my parents’ house with my hands tight on the wheel.

The house looked smaller than I remembered and considerably more deteriorated. Paint peeling, grass uncut, porch sagging at one corner. My mother opened the door, face composed but pale, and stepped aside in the manner of a receptionist rather than a parent.

Inside, my father sat in the living room looking frailer than I had ever seen him, though his eyes still held the stubborn quality of a man who had never stopped believing the world owed him something.

Over coffee, my mother presented the situation in the stripped-down language of someone who has stopped pretending. The bank was moving fast. They needed me to act.