By thirty-six, I owned a three-bedroom house in a quiet suburb with a backyard where Dylan played soccer and a kitchen where I cooked real meals and my son told me every weekend about his plans to become an astronaut with the seriousness of someone already mapping the route. He was twelve and stubborn and funny and quietly determined, and he was the person I had built my entire adult life around, not in the suffocating way of a parent who makes a child responsible for their happiness, but in the way of someone who understands that the most important work they will ever do is create the conditions for another person to grow without damage.

My parents had begun contacting me again in recent years. The pattern was consistent. My mother would open with something that sounded like genuine interest in my life and arrive, within two or three messages, at the point, which was always financial. Philip’s latest venture had stalled. My father’s business had not recovered. They were in a tight spot. You’re doing so well, my mother wrote. Can’t you spare something for family?