I had made it very clear that I couldn’t lend any money that month, because I still had to put all my money and emotional strength toward the surgery I was about to undergo, and I kept thinking my daughter-in-law would be understanding and stop there. But just a few minutes later, my phone lit up with a message from her, so cold that I was left stunned, unable to believe what had just appeared before my eyes.

And now, because I had said no to eight thousand dollars for a vacation, I needed to give them space.

I set the phone face down on the nightstand. Then I finished folding the laundry, slowly and with the deliberate care of someone trying to keep her hands busy long enough for the rest of her not to break open. There are moments when the most merciful thing you can do for yourself is continue with an ordinary task. Fold the towel. Match the socks. Smooth the T-shirts. Stack the washcloths. Let your body perform what your mind cannot yet absorb.

That evening I did not call my son.

I did not reply to the text.

I made myself scrambled eggs and toast, the meal I fall back on when I am too tired or too sad to decide what a proper dinner would be, and I ate at the kitchen table under the weak yellow light above it while the sky over the backyard went from pewter to blue-black. The house creaked the way older houses do as the temperature fell. Somewhere in the neighborhood a dog barked twice and stopped. Across the table from me the chair my husband used to pull out with his knee sat empty in the same plain, unreasonable way it had sat empty for years.