I had made it very clear that I couldn’t lend any money that month, because I still had to put all my money and emotional strength toward the surgery I was about to undergo, and I kept thinking my daughter-in-law would be understanding and stop there. But just a few minutes later, my phone lit up with a message from her, so cold that I was left stunned, unable to believe what had just appeared before my eyes.

Patricia Walsh greeted me at her office door herself when Thursday came.

Her office was in a brick building just off the town square, above a florist and two doors down from a bakery that always smelled like cinnamon before noon. Inside, the place held the scent of real coffee, paper, and old books. Not stale exactly. Settled. Lived in by serious work. She led me into her office, waited until I had eased myself carefully into the leather chair across from her desk, and asked how I was.

I told her.

All of it.

I told her about the call, the text, the years of checks and transfers and support. I told her about Sunday dinners, the legal pad, the number at the bottom of the page. I even told her the part that embarrassed me most, which was not that they had asked for money, not really, but that some part of me had built my place in that family around being the person who never let them feel the consequences of their own shortages for too long.

She listened with her pen resting on the notepad but did not interrupt to write.

When I finished, she asked one question.

“What would you like to do?”