The contrast was what made it unbearable. The cake had come from Kroger and been touched up with extra icing flowers someone had piped on at home. The lemonade had been poured into a glass dispenser with slices of lemon floating on top, one of those details women in this family loved because it photographed well and suggested effort and warmth and abundance. There were matching napkins, matching plates, a stack of wrapped forks lined up in a basket, and a little wooden sign painted with a child’s name in cursive. Someone had thought about centerpieces. Someone had thought about candles. Someone had counted guests and bought enough hot dogs and hamburger buns and party favors and pastel tissue paper for the gift table.
And somehow, in all that planning, no one had made space for my children.
My sister-in-law, Melissa, saw me first. Her face brightened in that practiced way that never reached her eyes, and before I had a chance to speak, she gave me the explanation already waiting at the tip of her tongue.