My mother was different. She loved symbols more than titles. Labels, handbags, dining reservations, carefully staged vacations posted online to imply a life more fluid than their actual credit limits allowed. She did not despise my work in the abstract. She despised what it did to the image of her family. If I came upstairs in uniform while she had guests, her mouth tightened almost involuntarily. If my shoes tracked in rainwater, she looked at the floor first and me second. Once, when a church friend dropped by unexpectedly and found me carrying a box of old clothes to the donation bin, my mother laughed too brightly and said, “Kairen is always helping with the heavy things. He’s so good with practical tasks.”
Practical.
That was her word for anything she could not brag about.